Do Your Kids Believe in Themselves?

As a parent you need to let your kid know that you do not expect them to be perfect. You know they are going to make mistakes and have behaviors that are not acceptable. You do not want your kid to be afraid of making mistakes.

Teaching a kid to believe in themselves, even if they mess up, is a part of life and they need to say "sorry" and move on. Even basketball giant Michael Jordan says "I missed more shots than I made". Moving on is the key to success in life and you will want to teach your kids that philosophy.

If you have kids, you will remember when they went through the shy stage. Do you remember when in a group, the kid would hide behind your leg and peek around a corner? Is this shy stage a demonstration of lack of self confidence? I doubt it because they out grow it. It is what we call "going through a phase".

I went to a student piano recital and sat beside one of the mothers of a kid in the recital. Her son came back to her at least a half of dozen times saying "Mommy, I can not do it. I am going to throw up". His mommy each time said, "You can do it; you have practice so well; go back to your seat. You can do it". He had no self confidence at all. There were at least 200 people seating and standing in an average size room. The piano and chair were on a stage for everyone to see them. Unfortunately, this little boy was about tenth on the program so he was a pack of nerves. When it came his time, he walked on the stage, gave his bow, sat down at the piano and never missed a note. He got up, took his bow, and ran back to his mommy instead of his designated seat to hear how good he had performed and to get a smile and kiss. I see them at every recital now and he smiles when he performs and enjoys it so much. He gained his self confidence with his first performance and continued to improve on his piano skills.

Self confidence has to be created with good accomplishments in life. It does not come naturally. Going through the experience can build confidence and by receiving compliments along the way makes it stick like glue. Helping kids gain their self confidence is truly one of the best things adults can do to help them reach success in their lives.

Rosalie Lynch is a Certified Life Coach who works with parents and kids in figuring out how to live together. You are invited to check out the blog at http://www.thekidsspeakout.com and receive a free report on "Why Do Kids Lie?"

Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.

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