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As promised in another message, there are some children that are absolutely more challenging than others. Remember, everyone is an individual! Any parent can find they have an extra exuberant, and yes, defiant, child to raise. Many are strong-willed, intensely curious, prone to eating and sleeping problems, often hyperactive and/or unusually intelligent.
You may say to yourself, I didn't bargain for this kind of a kid...why me? Stop and think! Perhaps you have been given this sensational opportunity to raise an absolutely amazing human being! Try to have patience and do it right ~
Let's get to the teaching, loving and disciplining aspect.of this startling individual. Save your energy for major problems by letting him win a battle now and then, and avoid making a full diagnosis until the child is of school age.
Punishing a child is not to get even but to teach. Try to remember that. A "time-out" is an effective and reasonable punishment for children of almost any age, as is rewarding good behavior. A "time out" is a cooling off period for both child and parent. Explain to the child it is the act you dislike, not the child.
Don't give up, and try not to get frustrated. Sometimes problems occur because of personality differences between a parent and a child, but there are children with whom any parent would have trouble. The challenge grows as the child does. He may have powerful needs and unyielding determination, and often intensely curious about every aspect of his surroundings.
It is important to accept this strong-willed child as he is and to convey your love often and sincerely. Give plenty of opportunities to explore all sorts of activities. Encourage physical activity. Try to find what he is "passionate" about and feed this passion. Keep him occupied and especially with books and games.
I will talk more about this in future messages. Stay tuned!
Always caring for kids,
Maureen Amberg
P.S. Check this Free Child Discipline Presentation
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