Parents - You Have to Give Your Kids Real Guidance For Real Success

I'm mad at what I hear in much of today's world regarding some parents. I've even had arguments in discussing raising children. Now hear this, children cannot raise themselves - they need guidance. I think that may have been lost the way some of these parents are raising their children. I've heard some of them say, children need to find their own way in life. That's an attitude of parents not wanting to be parents.

The primary purpose of a parent is to raise a self-sufficient, emotionally healthy, and happy adult. That's it. Many parents want to be friends with their children and that's fine, only after they become a self-sufficient, emotionally healthy, and happy adult. There, I've said it twice. There are ways to make that happen.

Guidance may come in the form of discipline. I'm not talking about giving your child a spanking. That does not work. Your child needs to know how to have discipline in their lives. Again, that comes from the kind of guidance you, as a parent, will provide. They need to learn to take responsibility - give it to them. In the same token, they need to learn about consequences for their actions. Let them learn it. If you are the type of parent who always gives your kids what they want - stop it now. That's if you really care.

Now here's something that I really hate to see. Parents who push their children to do something because of some unmet goal they had early in their lives. Examples are: the father who wanted to play football as a career or the mother who wanted to be a beauty queen.

When guiding a child to become self-disciplined, a parent needs to teach them about boundaries. Children are born without knowing any rules of society. That's something that is taught to them. They need to learn what acceptable behavior is. This includes the ability to watch out for them regarding danger. I'm not saying to pound rules down their throat. This kind of discipline will only create people who fear life and not willing to take risks.

What I am saying is to teach your children how to interact effectively in society. That way they will know their boundaries as well as how to get along with other people. The parent also has to set the example so their children can learn from them. Children will always mimic what their parents do. That includes how to have a relationship with other people - including marriage. It is typical to find an adult who is an abuser will have a parent who was an abuser. That's all they knew regarding relating to people.

Your children are like blank slates when they come into the world. It is up to the parent to help mold them to be emotionally healthy and happy.

Maureen is an author,entrepreneur and children's advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and self confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into "peaceful and calm"

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