Minerals and vitamins are often not found in adequate quantities in the various food items eaten daily. Attention should be paid to ensure that these elements are available in the top 10 diets for kids Families sometimes face problems providing proper nutrition to their children as kids can be sometimes very fussy and choosy about foods they like to eat. Maybe the clever approach would be to "incorporate" such items. They do need certain foods for good brain and body development.
1. Meat- This is a food item that is a rich source of protein and also Vitamin B. Apart from the above, valuable elements like copper, niacin, and iron are also present in it. To have a balanced and healthy meal you can prepare a tasty mix of vegetable stew and meat. Now and then you can allow children to have hamburgers, but that should be seldom. Grilling and barbecuing are two safe methods of preparing meat. Throw some fresh vegetables alongside the meat on the "barbie".
2. Eggs- Eggs can be used in many delicious dishes, and kids simply love to gorge on them. Proteins, vitamins and minerals are all present in this wonderful item and should definitely be in the list of top 10 foods for kids.
3. Milk- Many kids do not want to consume milk directly. For them, an innovative way of providing milk would be by giving them delicious milk shakes, custards, yogurts, etc., which can contain fruits as well as milk. You will find many valuable minerals, vitamins and carbohydrates in milk. You may also want to try soy, rice or goat milk.
4. Berries- Strawberries, blueberries and blackberries are all highly nutritious items. Berries contain Vitamin C, potassium, fibers, carbohydrates, and important anti-oxidants which powerfully fight against harmful free radicals. Children of all ages love to have strawberries in various preparations. You can mix berries with yogurt or with whole-grain flakes. Fresh is best, but frozen or dried are also beneficial.
5. Tuna fish- This fish should definitely be included in a kids diet. Apart from containing niacin, protein, Vitamin B, zinc and iron, this fish contains vital omega-3 oils. The benefits of this oil are slowly being revealed. But one needs to be cautious about the quantity of this fish consumed as mercury levels may be high. Tuna is good in sandwiches and salads.
6. Yogurt - Kids simply love to eat this and should be offered whenever possible. Being a good source of calcium, protein, carbohydrates, Vitamin B, phosphor and zinc you can easily make a delicious and nutritious preparation with fresh fruits.
Try to avoid the overly sugary kind. Yogurt can also be a replacement for ice cream.
7. Cheese- This is another delicious and healthy item. Cheese can be used as salad toppings or for garnishing certain vegetables. Kids also like cheese sandwiches. This item contains plenty of calcium, Vitamin B12, Protein and also phosphor. But be careful of providing too much cheese because of its high fat content.
8. Whole grains- Very nutritious and delectable recipes can be cooked with these when one applies a bit of resourcefulness. Add to meatloaf. Oatmeal is wonderful. Whole grain cereals are plentiful. Tuna on whole grain bread is simply the best.
9. Broccoli- It is a highly fibrous green vegetable and is ideal for kids. If your kids are fond of broccoli, fry it with low oil or stew it to prepare a tasty dish.
Lightly steam it and add cheddar cheese. Raw is best and good in salads.
10. Sweet potatoes- These vegetables are naturally sweet and lot of kids love them. It is again a rich source of fiber, Vitamin C, potassium, Vitamin A, Iron and Calcium. Try not to add much butter.
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
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Friday, March 26, 2010
Overly Anxious and Distressed Kids
There’s a new study out from San Diego State University saying that children and young adults today are the most anxious and depressed of the last seventy years.
I’m not surprised at all. Having too many choices is chaos. Morals and values have been sacrificed in favor of infamy and fortune. When sports heroes are infamous and rich because they took drugs to increase their performance, that is demoralizing to kids who work hard to aspire to athletic greatness simply by practicing a lot. When other young people get famous for flaunting drugs and anti-social behavior, it makes it difficult for the kids who simply work hard.
When you have a major Hollywood producer/director putting together a movie to excuse and explain Hitler (in context, he says), you have a generation that has no clear understanding of evil.
When you have military dying in the fields of foreign countries because we are at war with a religious ideology that wants to terminate western civilization, and one of their combatants is caught and tried only as a common criminal, you have a generation that is confused.
When you have a culture that does not support the basic building block of education - the family - we have children turning to equally confused peers and pop culture.
When the people in positions of power, authority and fame turn out to be of little character, you have a generation that doesn’t know what to respect or whom to emulate.
It all matters.
Our kids pay the price.
I’m not surprised at all. Having too many choices is chaos. Morals and values have been sacrificed in favor of infamy and fortune. When sports heroes are infamous and rich because they took drugs to increase their performance, that is demoralizing to kids who work hard to aspire to athletic greatness simply by practicing a lot. When other young people get famous for flaunting drugs and anti-social behavior, it makes it difficult for the kids who simply work hard.
When you have a major Hollywood producer/director putting together a movie to excuse and explain Hitler (in context, he says), you have a generation that has no clear understanding of evil.
When you have military dying in the fields of foreign countries because we are at war with a religious ideology that wants to terminate western civilization, and one of their combatants is caught and tried only as a common criminal, you have a generation that is confused.
When you have a culture that does not support the basic building block of education - the family - we have children turning to equally confused peers and pop culture.
When the people in positions of power, authority and fame turn out to be of little character, you have a generation that doesn’t know what to respect or whom to emulate.
It all matters.
Our kids pay the price.
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Home Schooling is NOT a Handicap
One of the criticisms lobbed at the home-schooling community/movement is that home-schooled children are being shielded from diversity and a multitude of challenging influences which will ultimately handicap them in their ability to function in the “real world.” In other words, “How will these children function in our diverse, multicultural society when they are raised in a setting with monolithic views and beliefs?”
Research examining home-schooled students’ academic achievements have consistently found that they score higher than the national norms on standard achievement tests. So the only grenade left to throw at home-schooling parents is that they are hurting their children socially and emotionally. The few studies in these areas have generally found home-schooled children to have equal or better self-esteem than traditionally schooled students. Then the argument becomes one of how to truly know you are measuring self-esteem.
Researchers from the Department of Psychology at Belhaven College in Jackson, Mississippi recently published their findings in Home School Researcher (Vol. 17, No. 4, 2007, pp. 1-7). They decided to study home-schooled students’ ability to successfully adjust to college life as an important criterion for demonstrating a positive outcome (or not) of home-schooling.
They compared Christian college freshmen who had previously been home-schooled with a matched sample of traditionally schooled Christian freshmen on the College Adjustment Scale. The average scores of the two groups were compared across nine scales designed to measure emotional, behavioral, social, and academic problems as typically presented to university counseling centers.
The home-schooled students scored significantly lower on the anxiety subscale, while no difference was found between the two groups on the remaining scales. Additionally, there was a general trend characterized by home-schooled students reporting fewer symptoms of emotional distress and social problems, and achieving higher first semester GPAs:
The results suggest that home-schooled college freshmen successfully adjust to the social and academic environment of a Christian college with a diverse student population. The college does not require that all students attending the college assent to a personal faith in Christ. The previously home-schooled students are also confronted by many peers who make lifestyle choices different from their own. Most of the college peers of the home-schooled students would be considered less conservative in their dress, entertainment interests, moral values and behaviors, than those typically experienced in most Christian home-schooled families. Therefore, these students are not entering a homogeneous social community that necessarily mirrors their family backgrounds.”
Obviously, home-schooled students have additional adjustments to make when leaving their homes and entering a university or college environment: social relationship, peer pressure, classroom structure, etc. They are being forced to adapt to a social environment decidedly different from their homes or home school support groups.
The results demonstrate that home-schooled students are able to successfully adapt emotionally, interpersonally, and academically to their first, and most challenging, semester in college. That is probably because, having had the consistent teaching and support of a family and a community, they have developed strengths and convictions that provide a bridge over the troubled waters of a multitude of challenges and temptations.
I personally believe that home-schooling helps students who have problems with focus and difficulties with energy control. The traditional school environment required “Stepford Child” control, and the teaching techniques required for a group of thirty do not necessarily assist the learning needs and talents of each individual student. So, instead of drugging kids to be docile, perhaps we should turn to the successes of home-schooling.
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
http://TeenagersSelfEsteem.com
Research examining home-schooled students’ academic achievements have consistently found that they score higher than the national norms on standard achievement tests. So the only grenade left to throw at home-schooling parents is that they are hurting their children socially and emotionally. The few studies in these areas have generally found home-schooled children to have equal or better self-esteem than traditionally schooled students. Then the argument becomes one of how to truly know you are measuring self-esteem.
Researchers from the Department of Psychology at Belhaven College in Jackson, Mississippi recently published their findings in Home School Researcher (Vol. 17, No. 4, 2007, pp. 1-7). They decided to study home-schooled students’ ability to successfully adjust to college life as an important criterion for demonstrating a positive outcome (or not) of home-schooling.
They compared Christian college freshmen who had previously been home-schooled with a matched sample of traditionally schooled Christian freshmen on the College Adjustment Scale. The average scores of the two groups were compared across nine scales designed to measure emotional, behavioral, social, and academic problems as typically presented to university counseling centers.
The home-schooled students scored significantly lower on the anxiety subscale, while no difference was found between the two groups on the remaining scales. Additionally, there was a general trend characterized by home-schooled students reporting fewer symptoms of emotional distress and social problems, and achieving higher first semester GPAs:
The results suggest that home-schooled college freshmen successfully adjust to the social and academic environment of a Christian college with a diverse student population. The college does not require that all students attending the college assent to a personal faith in Christ. The previously home-schooled students are also confronted by many peers who make lifestyle choices different from their own. Most of the college peers of the home-schooled students would be considered less conservative in their dress, entertainment interests, moral values and behaviors, than those typically experienced in most Christian home-schooled families. Therefore, these students are not entering a homogeneous social community that necessarily mirrors their family backgrounds.”
Obviously, home-schooled students have additional adjustments to make when leaving their homes and entering a university or college environment: social relationship, peer pressure, classroom structure, etc. They are being forced to adapt to a social environment decidedly different from their homes or home school support groups.
The results demonstrate that home-schooled students are able to successfully adapt emotionally, interpersonally, and academically to their first, and most challenging, semester in college. That is probably because, having had the consistent teaching and support of a family and a community, they have developed strengths and convictions that provide a bridge over the troubled waters of a multitude of challenges and temptations.
I personally believe that home-schooling helps students who have problems with focus and difficulties with energy control. The traditional school environment required “Stepford Child” control, and the teaching techniques required for a group of thirty do not necessarily assist the learning needs and talents of each individual student. So, instead of drugging kids to be docile, perhaps we should turn to the successes of home-schooling.
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
http://TeenagersSelfEsteem.com
Monday, March 22, 2010
Boost Your Child's Self-Esteem through Positive Actions
by Maureen Amberg
We live in a world that makes it difficult for us to come down off of the stress that we are all experiencing. As adults, we probably experience the stress at work and in our home life, in many cases. What we may tend to forget, however, is that our children are also feeling the stress and it can really wreak havoc on their self-esteem and confidence that they may need to get through their day-to-day lives. That is why it is important for us, as parents, to recognize the problems that may be happening to our children and to assist them in being able to cope.
There are a number of different ways that we can help our children in this regard, and it really depends upon their personality, age and what their problems may happen to be. Something that all of us can do, however, is to provide a positive atmosphere for our children that will assist them in being able to find shelter whenever they are in our homes. This may be difficult for many of us to do, especially if we are struggling with our own sense of worth but if we are able to do so, we will find that everybody benefits as a result.
There are a number of different things that you may be able to do in order to provide this positive atmosphere. Communication with your children is one of those, and this may be something that takes some time to establish. Having some family time that is free of stressful communication is also an important part of making sure that your child feels safe inside of the home. The more of a welcoming environment that you're able to provide for them, the more that you will find they are blossoming and becoming comfortable with themselves and the world around them.
We live in a world that makes it difficult for us to come down off of the stress that we are all experiencing. As adults, we probably experience the stress at work and in our home life, in many cases. What we may tend to forget, however, is that our children are also feeling the stress and it can really wreak havoc on their self-esteem and confidence that they may need to get through their day-to-day lives. That is why it is important for us, as parents, to recognize the problems that may be happening to our children and to assist them in being able to cope.
There are a number of different ways that we can help our children in this regard, and it really depends upon their personality, age and what their problems may happen to be. Something that all of us can do, however, is to provide a positive atmosphere for our children that will assist them in being able to find shelter whenever they are in our homes. This may be difficult for many of us to do, especially if we are struggling with our own sense of worth but if we are able to do so, we will find that everybody benefits as a result.
There are a number of different things that you may be able to do in order to provide this positive atmosphere. Communication with your children is one of those, and this may be something that takes some time to establish. Having some family time that is free of stressful communication is also an important part of making sure that your child feels safe inside of the home. The more of a welcoming environment that you're able to provide for them, the more that you will find they are blossoming and becoming comfortable with themselves and the world around them.
Helping Your Child Feel Special
by Maureen Amberg
We live in a world that is not really friendly to children on a number of different levels. This is due, in part, to things that are portrayed in the media, such as the perception of a perfect body which is unattainable for many of us. These things are affecting our children at a much younger age, and we may find that our child is lacking in self-esteem as a result of these issues. This can result in a number of different problems, many of which are difficult for us to handle as parents. When you find yourself in this situation, it is important for you to understand that it is not your fault, but it is your responsibility to assist your child in feeling special.
The unfortunate thing is, a child may not be willing to listen to their parents in this regard which can make it more difficult for us to handle an already volatile situation. That is why it may be necessary for you to boost your child's self-esteem and to give them a feeling of worth without being so open about it that it causes them to retract away from you. This balancing act is something that many of us have a difficult time obtaining, but it certainly is possible if we are patient.
When a child is at a delicate age and they are struggling with feelings of worthlessness, it is something that can affect them throughout their entire life. If you are able to turn the tide and to give them the self-confidence necessary in order to realize that they are special, it is something that will affect them in a positive way. Although this may be difficult at times to maintain, it is going to be worth the effort and it will help to top off a 20 year project of raising our children to be healthy and happy with themselves.
We live in a world that is not really friendly to children on a number of different levels. This is due, in part, to things that are portrayed in the media, such as the perception of a perfect body which is unattainable for many of us. These things are affecting our children at a much younger age, and we may find that our child is lacking in self-esteem as a result of these issues. This can result in a number of different problems, many of which are difficult for us to handle as parents. When you find yourself in this situation, it is important for you to understand that it is not your fault, but it is your responsibility to assist your child in feeling special.
The unfortunate thing is, a child may not be willing to listen to their parents in this regard which can make it more difficult for us to handle an already volatile situation. That is why it may be necessary for you to boost your child's self-esteem and to give them a feeling of worth without being so open about it that it causes them to retract away from you. This balancing act is something that many of us have a difficult time obtaining, but it certainly is possible if we are patient.
When a child is at a delicate age and they are struggling with feelings of worthlessness, it is something that can affect them throughout their entire life. If you are able to turn the tide and to give them the self-confidence necessary in order to realize that they are special, it is something that will affect them in a positive way. Although this may be difficult at times to maintain, it is going to be worth the effort and it will help to top off a 20 year project of raising our children to be healthy and happy with themselves.
Thursday, March 18, 2010
Teens - What Do I Want to Be When I Grow Up?
Teens are often conflicted. Depending on their personal family situations, there are higher and lower degrees, yet being confused in high school is a common reality. Now, as if there are not enough growing pains to deal with, teens are pushed harder than ever to try and figure out what career they should be doing for the rest of their lives. When my son was in 8th grade, it astounded me to learn that he would have to choose a "career track" in high school. Now that he is in his junior year, I'm still not sure how meaningful his "career track" decision was. The good news is that we're talking about fields of interest that will eventually shape his college direction. The time to start is now. Do not wait.
Even though career may not be the first thought on a young teen's mind, there are job-oriented seeds that can be planted in the early high school years (and sometimes earlier) that could eventually develop into genuine interests leading to choosing a college major or career path as the first jumping off point, and eventually toward a career goal. To find hints of potential career goals for teens, parents and teens only need to look at their son or daughter's early childhood interests when most kids declare what they want to be when they grow up.
My son is interested in engineering. He loves physics and math. The doors should swing wide open to him as long as he is able to define the areas of engineering that inspire him. He is also a bowler. So one of the areas he has considered is designing and engineering bowling balls. We are going to look into internships for him at a local company. He may be inspired to pursue this, or end up looking into other possibilities. This is all part of the process of discovery. And it starts now!
Here are a few tips to get your teens thinking about honing in on a few passions that can help define a college major and eventual career path:
Stay focused on your teens innate characteristics:
No one knows this better than you, the parent. As an entrepreneur, I have always thought how great it would be if my son chose to go into his own business. But one day he said to me, "Mom, I don't want to work for myself." As tough as that was to hear, I am not going to challenge him as it will only lead to conflict. He's only 17, so of course that could change. Even though he is an exceptional artist, he has not expressed an interest in pursuing that avenue either (at least for now) Can you hear the sigh? Really listen to what your child says and what actions they take and introduce them to options within the scope of their expressed interests. You can always "sneak" in a few more ideas as long as you do it within the scope of their current interests (i.e. I would like to show my son where they make the designs for the bowling balls, which requires some artistic ability). At this age, it's important to just listen because they really do have opinions - galore!
Encourage your teen to think creatively about career. Introduce your child or teen to the idea that there are multiple ways to tackle the same problem or to think of a a possible career path. Try brainstorming possible career directions by taking one interest such as art and looking at how it can be used it in a variety of fields such as graphic design, health, communications, food even banking or the financial industry. Then take another and do the same thing, and so on until you get to the "ah ha."
Try a few new things out at least once. It's really ok to be a "Jack of All Trades" when it comes to learning new things that could lead to a lifetime of developing a passionate interest-career.
Acknowledge career-related successes. Remind your teen and yourself that by taking action toward learning, doing or trying something new that might lead toward a better understanding of a potential career path is a "win." For example: spending some time reviewing potential careers in the Occupational Outlook Handbook, http://www.bls.gov/OCO/, successfully completing a class on a subject of interest - even a high school elective on something fun are all successes that should be celebrated.
Consider enlisting the help of a career counselor. If you or your teen are looking for a way to minimize confusion, and would like help in navigating the career path waters toward a real direction, career counseling can help provide the structure, support and accountability to arrive at a real direction and action plan for the future.
Shell Mendelson, MS, has been a Career Path Counselor for over 22 years, and has helped thousands of people find their true career direction. Shell is the founder and former CEO of KidzArt, an international art education franchise in 29 states and 8 countries. For more information on services email shell@nbcareersnow.com or visit http://www.passiontocareer.com.
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Shell_Mendelson
Even though career may not be the first thought on a young teen's mind, there are job-oriented seeds that can be planted in the early high school years (and sometimes earlier) that could eventually develop into genuine interests leading to choosing a college major or career path as the first jumping off point, and eventually toward a career goal. To find hints of potential career goals for teens, parents and teens only need to look at their son or daughter's early childhood interests when most kids declare what they want to be when they grow up.
My son is interested in engineering. He loves physics and math. The doors should swing wide open to him as long as he is able to define the areas of engineering that inspire him. He is also a bowler. So one of the areas he has considered is designing and engineering bowling balls. We are going to look into internships for him at a local company. He may be inspired to pursue this, or end up looking into other possibilities. This is all part of the process of discovery. And it starts now!
Here are a few tips to get your teens thinking about honing in on a few passions that can help define a college major and eventual career path:
Stay focused on your teens innate characteristics:
No one knows this better than you, the parent. As an entrepreneur, I have always thought how great it would be if my son chose to go into his own business. But one day he said to me, "Mom, I don't want to work for myself." As tough as that was to hear, I am not going to challenge him as it will only lead to conflict. He's only 17, so of course that could change. Even though he is an exceptional artist, he has not expressed an interest in pursuing that avenue either (at least for now) Can you hear the sigh? Really listen to what your child says and what actions they take and introduce them to options within the scope of their expressed interests. You can always "sneak" in a few more ideas as long as you do it within the scope of their current interests (i.e. I would like to show my son where they make the designs for the bowling balls, which requires some artistic ability). At this age, it's important to just listen because they really do have opinions - galore!
Encourage your teen to think creatively about career. Introduce your child or teen to the idea that there are multiple ways to tackle the same problem or to think of a a possible career path. Try brainstorming possible career directions by taking one interest such as art and looking at how it can be used it in a variety of fields such as graphic design, health, communications, food even banking or the financial industry. Then take another and do the same thing, and so on until you get to the "ah ha."
Try a few new things out at least once. It's really ok to be a "Jack of All Trades" when it comes to learning new things that could lead to a lifetime of developing a passionate interest-career.
Acknowledge career-related successes. Remind your teen and yourself that by taking action toward learning, doing or trying something new that might lead toward a better understanding of a potential career path is a "win." For example: spending some time reviewing potential careers in the Occupational Outlook Handbook, http://www.bls.gov/OCO/, successfully completing a class on a subject of interest - even a high school elective on something fun are all successes that should be celebrated.
Consider enlisting the help of a career counselor. If you or your teen are looking for a way to minimize confusion, and would like help in navigating the career path waters toward a real direction, career counseling can help provide the structure, support and accountability to arrive at a real direction and action plan for the future.
Shell Mendelson, MS, has been a Career Path Counselor for over 22 years, and has helped thousands of people find their true career direction. Shell is the founder and former CEO of KidzArt, an international art education franchise in 29 states and 8 countries. For more information on services email shell@nbcareersnow.com or visit http://www.passiontocareer.com.
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Shell_Mendelson
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Can a Hobby Help Boost Your Child's Confidence?
By Maureen Amberg
Many of us can appreciate the fact that self-confidence is always an issue, but whenever a child is lacking in self-confidence, it can truly cause some problems for everybody that is involved. As a matter of fact, many parents may find themselves struggling for answers whenever it seems that their child is unable to have the confidence necessary to get through their day to day life. It can even cause some more serious concerns, above the fact that they are lacking in confidence and that is why many parents are looking for ways to turn the tide, even if only in small steps.
It is not always going to be necessary for you to make differences in your child's life that are so profound that it completely changes their outlook on life. As a matter of fact, this is a goal that can affect your own self-confidence, as it is rarely one that works out. Instead of trying to change everything whenever your child is lacking in self-confidence, it is often enough to make little changes that will help to give them a boost in their self-confidence and to begin to make the turn on their own.
Something that many parents have found beneficial in this regard is to get their child involved in some type of hobby. It would be important for you to keep the personality of the child in mind whenever choosing one of these hobbies, as you would certainly want to make sure that it matched properly. It doesn't even need to be something that is overly time-consuming, just something that will help the child to bring some of their own inner confidence to the fore. When you do this, you help to give your child something that will benefit them now and something that will follow them through the rest of their life.
Many of us can appreciate the fact that self-confidence is always an issue, but whenever a child is lacking in self-confidence, it can truly cause some problems for everybody that is involved. As a matter of fact, many parents may find themselves struggling for answers whenever it seems that their child is unable to have the confidence necessary to get through their day to day life. It can even cause some more serious concerns, above the fact that they are lacking in confidence and that is why many parents are looking for ways to turn the tide, even if only in small steps.
It is not always going to be necessary for you to make differences in your child's life that are so profound that it completely changes their outlook on life. As a matter of fact, this is a goal that can affect your own self-confidence, as it is rarely one that works out. Instead of trying to change everything whenever your child is lacking in self-confidence, it is often enough to make little changes that will help to give them a boost in their self-confidence and to begin to make the turn on their own.
Something that many parents have found beneficial in this regard is to get their child involved in some type of hobby. It would be important for you to keep the personality of the child in mind whenever choosing one of these hobbies, as you would certainly want to make sure that it matched properly. It doesn't even need to be something that is overly time-consuming, just something that will help the child to bring some of their own inner confidence to the fore. When you do this, you help to give your child something that will benefit them now and something that will follow them through the rest of their life.
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
When Shyness Is An Issue
by Maureen Amberg
Having a child that is overly shy is a concern to many parents, but there are some things that you can do in order to help to give them the confidence necessary to overcome this problem. Of course, it is important for you to approach this situation very cautiously, as a child that is already lacking in self-esteem is going to be an easy target for additional pressure in this area. That is why it is important for you to be patient with your child, and help them to grow naturally in their own self-assurance and the ability to be able to live a life that is free of the shackles that shyness provides.
Perhaps one of the most important things for you to do is to never label your child as being shy. As a matter of fact, this can really work against you, as it tends to make the child feel as if there is something wrong with them and the feelings that they have. It is important to get everyone involved in this process, including teachers that may inadvertently refer to your child as being shy, which does little more than to bring attention to them that they would rather not have.
Shyness is something that can stick with an individual throughout their entire life, and it is one of the more difficult problems that you may need to help your child to overcome. One of the ways that you can do this is by naturally boosting their self-esteem and confidence through hobbies, sports, or any other activity that may be of interest to your child. Always make sure to offer praise for any steps that they take in this direction and provide them with a safe support structure, should they happen to need some additional self-assurance. In doing so, you will give your child something that will benefit them through their entire life.
Having a child that is overly shy is a concern to many parents, but there are some things that you can do in order to help to give them the confidence necessary to overcome this problem. Of course, it is important for you to approach this situation very cautiously, as a child that is already lacking in self-esteem is going to be an easy target for additional pressure in this area. That is why it is important for you to be patient with your child, and help them to grow naturally in their own self-assurance and the ability to be able to live a life that is free of the shackles that shyness provides.
Perhaps one of the most important things for you to do is to never label your child as being shy. As a matter of fact, this can really work against you, as it tends to make the child feel as if there is something wrong with them and the feelings that they have. It is important to get everyone involved in this process, including teachers that may inadvertently refer to your child as being shy, which does little more than to bring attention to them that they would rather not have.
Shyness is something that can stick with an individual throughout their entire life, and it is one of the more difficult problems that you may need to help your child to overcome. One of the ways that you can do this is by naturally boosting their self-esteem and confidence through hobbies, sports, or any other activity that may be of interest to your child. Always make sure to offer praise for any steps that they take in this direction and provide them with a safe support structure, should they happen to need some additional self-assurance. In doing so, you will give your child something that will benefit them through their entire life.
Helping Your Child Feel Special
Helping Your Child Feel Special
We live in a world that is not really friendly to children on a number of different levels. This is due, in part, to things that are portrayed in the media, such as the perception of a perfect body which is unattainable for many of us. These things are affecting our children at a much younger age, and we may find that our child is lacking in self-esteem as a result of these issues. This can result in a number of different problems, many of which are difficult for us to handle as parents. When you find yourself in this situation, it is important for you to understand that it is not your fault, but it is your responsibility to assist your child in feeling special.
The unfortunate thing is, a child may not be willing to listen to their parents in this regard which can make it more difficult for us to handle an already volatile situation. That is why it may be necessary for you to boost your child's self-esteem and to give them a feeling of worth without being so open about it that it causes them to retract away from you. This balancing act is something that many of us have a difficult time obtaining, but it certainly is possible if we are patient.
When a child is at a delicate age and they are struggling with feelings of worthlessness, it is something that can affect them throughout their entire life. If you are able to turn the tide and to give them the self-confidence necessary in order to realize that they are special, it is something that will affect them in a positive way. Although this may be difficult at times to maintain, it is going to be worth the effort and it will help to top off a 20 year project of raising our children to be healthy and happy with themselves.
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
We live in a world that is not really friendly to children on a number of different levels. This is due, in part, to things that are portrayed in the media, such as the perception of a perfect body which is unattainable for many of us. These things are affecting our children at a much younger age, and we may find that our child is lacking in self-esteem as a result of these issues. This can result in a number of different problems, many of which are difficult for us to handle as parents. When you find yourself in this situation, it is important for you to understand that it is not your fault, but it is your responsibility to assist your child in feeling special.
The unfortunate thing is, a child may not be willing to listen to their parents in this regard which can make it more difficult for us to handle an already volatile situation. That is why it may be necessary for you to boost your child's self-esteem and to give them a feeling of worth without being so open about it that it causes them to retract away from you. This balancing act is something that many of us have a difficult time obtaining, but it certainly is possible if we are patient.
When a child is at a delicate age and they are struggling with feelings of worthlessness, it is something that can affect them throughout their entire life. If you are able to turn the tide and to give them the self-confidence necessary in order to realize that they are special, it is something that will affect them in a positive way. Although this may be difficult at times to maintain, it is going to be worth the effort and it will help to top off a 20 year project of raising our children to be healthy and happy with themselves.
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
Monday, March 15, 2010
Disciplining Your Kids
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
If you ask parents if they enjoy dishing out discipline to their kids, the answer will always be "no" they do not enjoy it. After all it makes them feel bad and of course it makes the kid feel bad. You may be surprised at the attitude of some kids toward discipline.
When you have to discipline your kid they want to know and understand what they are doing wrong that caused them to be punished. And as a parent, I am sure you think your kid understands what they did wrong and you don't need to explain it to them. Most kids lack short term memory and most of the time they do not even remember what they did to get your negative reaction. A yelling match and a spanking on the bottom without a lesson to be learned is nothing more than abuse, in my opinion.
The kids think it is the responsibility of the parents to explain to the kid why they are being disciplined. I am sure the kids will argue that your explanation is stupid and they should not have been punished. However, if you ask kids when they are calm and detached from punishment, they will tell you they want to know why their parents reacted the way they did by punishing them.
Kids want to know their boundaries. When they overstep their boundaries and get disciplined, without a clear understanding as to why, the lesson is not learned and their unacceptable behavior will reoccur. Kids said they do not mind being disciplined, although they clearly think spankings are extreme and not needed as long as they know the "why".
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
Rosalie Lynch is a Certified Life Coach who works with parents and kids in figuring out how to live together. You are invited to check out the blog at http://www.thekidsspeakout.com Coach Rosalie reports on issues kids face everyday and how we adults can help them go through their difficult times. She puts humor in her posts and believes adults need to always keep their sense of humor when relating to kids.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Rosalie_Lynch
If you ask parents if they enjoy dishing out discipline to their kids, the answer will always be "no" they do not enjoy it. After all it makes them feel bad and of course it makes the kid feel bad. You may be surprised at the attitude of some kids toward discipline.
When you have to discipline your kid they want to know and understand what they are doing wrong that caused them to be punished. And as a parent, I am sure you think your kid understands what they did wrong and you don't need to explain it to them. Most kids lack short term memory and most of the time they do not even remember what they did to get your negative reaction. A yelling match and a spanking on the bottom without a lesson to be learned is nothing more than abuse, in my opinion.
The kids think it is the responsibility of the parents to explain to the kid why they are being disciplined. I am sure the kids will argue that your explanation is stupid and they should not have been punished. However, if you ask kids when they are calm and detached from punishment, they will tell you they want to know why their parents reacted the way they did by punishing them.
Kids want to know their boundaries. When they overstep their boundaries and get disciplined, without a clear understanding as to why, the lesson is not learned and their unacceptable behavior will reoccur. Kids said they do not mind being disciplined, although they clearly think spankings are extreme and not needed as long as they know the "why".
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
Rosalie Lynch is a Certified Life Coach who works with parents and kids in figuring out how to live together. You are invited to check out the blog at http://www.thekidsspeakout.com Coach Rosalie reports on issues kids face everyday and how we adults can help them go through their difficult times. She puts humor in her posts and believes adults need to always keep their sense of humor when relating to kids.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Rosalie_Lynch
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Kids and Building Self Esteem
The one thing that I have noticed in interviewing kids is their lack of self esteem. They are insecure little people who need reassurance most days that they are OK. The "professionals" say do not give too much praise when kids are growing up because they will expect it when they grow up. Do you like praise and compliments? Of course you do and so do I. Do we receive much praise and compliments?
Tweens, ages 8-12, do not have much reason to have self esteem when you think about them. They have their permanent teeth growing in weird; they have pimples; they have scars, cuts and boo-boos and do not quite know what to do with their hair. They can look in the mirror and see that the girls do not look at Hanna Montana and the boys do not look like one of those cute guys. Physically, it is not a pleasant stage in their life to go through and self esteem is low. Surveys have determined that the Tweens, because of their low self esteem are attracted to materialistic stuff called "bright shining objects". To take the attention off of themselves they pressure their parents, and grandparents, into buying them the latest cell phone, iPod, laptop computers, Wii, XBox and clothes/shoes.
Why not make a kid feel good and give them a compliment or praise them in something special that they achieve. By the way, do not make up phony praises - a kid can mark a phony ten miles out. I do not think they will be spoiled and who knows you may even help them build their self-esteem. And, as an adult why not find another adult and give them a compliment - it will make you happy and will make them happy.
Rosalie Lynch is a Certified Life Coach who works with parents and kids in figuring out how to live together. You are invited to check out the blog at http://www.thekidsspeakout.com Coach Rosalie reports on issues kids face everyday and how we adults can help them go through their difficult times. She puts humor in her posts and believes adults need to always keep their sense of humor when relating to kids.
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Rosalie_Lynch
Tweens, ages 8-12, do not have much reason to have self esteem when you think about them. They have their permanent teeth growing in weird; they have pimples; they have scars, cuts and boo-boos and do not quite know what to do with their hair. They can look in the mirror and see that the girls do not look at Hanna Montana and the boys do not look like one of those cute guys. Physically, it is not a pleasant stage in their life to go through and self esteem is low. Surveys have determined that the Tweens, because of their low self esteem are attracted to materialistic stuff called "bright shining objects". To take the attention off of themselves they pressure their parents, and grandparents, into buying them the latest cell phone, iPod, laptop computers, Wii, XBox and clothes/shoes.
Why not make a kid feel good and give them a compliment or praise them in something special that they achieve. By the way, do not make up phony praises - a kid can mark a phony ten miles out. I do not think they will be spoiled and who knows you may even help them build their self-esteem. And, as an adult why not find another adult and give them a compliment - it will make you happy and will make them happy.
Rosalie Lynch is a Certified Life Coach who works with parents and kids in figuring out how to live together. You are invited to check out the blog at http://www.thekidsspeakout.com Coach Rosalie reports on issues kids face everyday and how we adults can help them go through their difficult times. She puts humor in her posts and believes adults need to always keep their sense of humor when relating to kids.
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Rosalie_Lynch
Friday, March 5, 2010
Do Your Kids Believe in Themselves?
As a parent you need to let your kid know that you do not expect them to be perfect. You know they are going to make mistakes and have behaviors that are not acceptable. You do not want your kid to be afraid of making mistakes.
Teaching a kid to believe in themselves, even if they mess up, is a part of life and they need to say "sorry" and move on. Even basketball giant Michael Jordan says "I missed more shots than I made". Moving on is the key to success in life and you will want to teach your kids that philosophy.
If you have kids, you will remember when they went through the shy stage. Do you remember when in a group, the kid would hide behind your leg and peek around a corner? Is this shy stage a demonstration of lack of self confidence? I doubt it because they out grow it. It is what we call "going through a phase".
I went to a student piano recital and sat beside one of the mothers of a kid in the recital. Her son came back to her at least a half of dozen times saying "Mommy, I can not do it. I am going to throw up". His mommy each time said, "You can do it; you have practice so well; go back to your seat. You can do it". He had no self confidence at all. There were at least 200 people seating and standing in an average size room. The piano and chair were on a stage for everyone to see them. Unfortunately, this little boy was about tenth on the program so he was a pack of nerves. When it came his time, he walked on the stage, gave his bow, sat down at the piano and never missed a note. He got up, took his bow, and ran back to his mommy instead of his designated seat to hear how good he had performed and to get a smile and kiss. I see them at every recital now and he smiles when he performs and enjoys it so much. He gained his self confidence with his first performance and continued to improve on his piano skills.
Self confidence has to be created with good accomplishments in life. It does not come naturally. Going through the experience can build confidence and by receiving compliments along the way makes it stick like glue. Helping kids gain their self confidence is truly one of the best things adults can do to help them reach success in their lives.
Rosalie Lynch is a Certified Life Coach who works with parents and kids in figuring out how to live together. You are invited to check out the blog at http://www.thekidsspeakout.com and receive a free report on "Why Do Kids Lie?"
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Rosalie_Lynch
Teaching a kid to believe in themselves, even if they mess up, is a part of life and they need to say "sorry" and move on. Even basketball giant Michael Jordan says "I missed more shots than I made". Moving on is the key to success in life and you will want to teach your kids that philosophy.
If you have kids, you will remember when they went through the shy stage. Do you remember when in a group, the kid would hide behind your leg and peek around a corner? Is this shy stage a demonstration of lack of self confidence? I doubt it because they out grow it. It is what we call "going through a phase".
I went to a student piano recital and sat beside one of the mothers of a kid in the recital. Her son came back to her at least a half of dozen times saying "Mommy, I can not do it. I am going to throw up". His mommy each time said, "You can do it; you have practice so well; go back to your seat. You can do it". He had no self confidence at all. There were at least 200 people seating and standing in an average size room. The piano and chair were on a stage for everyone to see them. Unfortunately, this little boy was about tenth on the program so he was a pack of nerves. When it came his time, he walked on the stage, gave his bow, sat down at the piano and never missed a note. He got up, took his bow, and ran back to his mommy instead of his designated seat to hear how good he had performed and to get a smile and kiss. I see them at every recital now and he smiles when he performs and enjoys it so much. He gained his self confidence with his first performance and continued to improve on his piano skills.
Self confidence has to be created with good accomplishments in life. It does not come naturally. Going through the experience can build confidence and by receiving compliments along the way makes it stick like glue. Helping kids gain their self confidence is truly one of the best things adults can do to help them reach success in their lives.
Rosalie Lynch is a Certified Life Coach who works with parents and kids in figuring out how to live together. You are invited to check out the blog at http://www.thekidsspeakout.com and receive a free report on "Why Do Kids Lie?"
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Rosalie_Lynch
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Life is Your Creation
You can make your life dreams come true. As you read further you will discover some techniques and principles to help you manifest your dreams with ease and grace.
The first step to manifesting what you want in life is to be very clear on what it is you want. What is it that you really want? Are you crystal clear on what it is that you want? One of the biggest reasons why people do not make their life dreams come true, is lack of clarity on what it is they truly want.
Another key to manifesting what it is that you truly want, and then being satisfied and happy when you receive what you want, is being clear on what part of you wants these things. Are your desires spirit driven, or ego driven? The desires of the ego will never satisfy you, completely and permanently.
It's okay to have a lot of money and live in a beautiful home, drive a nice car and all of those things. However, you have to be clear on why you want those things. Do you want these things to impress others and fill a hole within you? Or, do you want these things to feed your spirit and live a comfortable life, so that you can more clearly live your purpose to do good in the world and benefit others? We can do a lot of good in the world when we are wealthy. We also can live a very shallow and empty life when we are rich. What is driving your goals and desires, spirit or ego?
Again, to create what it is that you want in life, it is very important to be very clear on exactly what it is that you want in life. I would encourage you to take some time and get very quiet and relaxed, with a pen and paper. Take some deep breathes and close your eyes, now imagine your perfect life. What does your perfect life look like? Imagine it in great detail. What do you see? Where do you live? Are you married, if so what is your spouse like? How much money do you make monthly? What are your friends like? How does your body look and feel? What is your emotional state? What do you do for work? How do you feel? Imagine your perfect life in as much detail as possible.
When you are ready, begin to write down everything that you just visualized in as great of detail as possible. Write down the feelings you feel and everything that you can possibly think of.
Now that you have everything written down, go through each individual thing, write it on a separate piece of paper and write down why you want each thing. Write every reason why, that you can think of. Writing down your 'why' is extremely important for two reasons. The first reason is that this will help you determine if these desires are ego driven or spirit driven. The second reason is, the power of 'why'is what creates our powerful emotions that create what we want. If we state that we want certain things, but we are unclear on why we want them, then our power to create is weak. When we are crystal clear on why, and that 'why' inspires us, then our power to create is extremely powerful.
Now, you are clear on what you want and why you want it, you have now activated The Universe to start working with you to create what it is you want. I would encourage you to look at your list of what you want and why you want it very often. I would encourage you to read what you wrote for your ideal life, one to three times a day, especially before you go to sleep at night.
Some other powerful tools that can help you manifest your life dreams quicker and easier are, vision boards, affirmations, daily meditation and a gratitude journal.
A vision board helps you keep your goals in your minds eye on a daily basis. Find pictures of what you want and paste them all in one place on a board or on your wall, or whatever works best for you. It is our subconscious mind that creates our reality. We create new results by changing the information in our subconscious mind. Vision boards are a very powerful way to give new information to your subconscious. Another very powerful way to do this, is affirmations.
Affirmations are one of the most effective ways to create what it is that you desire. Write what you want in the present moment, as if you have already created what it is that you want. When you speak your affirmations, speak them with great feeling and emotion. I would encorage you to write affirmations for the top three things that you want to create and read each one five times out loud, three times a day.
Daily meditation is very important. By meditating every day you keep your connection to spirit strong. By having a strong connection to spirit, you take inspired action more often, rather that ego minded action. Spiritually guided inspired action will take you to your goals with the least resistance, to allow you to manifest your life dreams easily and effortlessly.
Gratitude is the most powerful emotion to create what we want, besides love. Love is the most powerful emotion to create, however gratitude is a form of love and carries great power. I would highly encourage you to start a gratitude journal. Every morning or evening, sit and write everything that comes to mind or heart, that you are grateful for. Just keep writing until you feel compelled to stop. You may start with writing only one thing, however, the more you write what you are grateful for, the more things in your life you will notice to be grateful for. At some time, you will come to a point where there are so many things that you are grateful for, you couldn't possibly write it all down in one sitting. That is a beautiful place to be. Remember, that feeling of gratitude is one of the most powerful tools for creating what you want.
To be able to incorporate all of these things you may need to make some changes in your life and in your schedule. If you keep doing what you have always done, you will continue to create the same things that you have always created. To live your ideal life, you need to eliminate anything that is not in alignment with what it is that you want to create. That means eliminating all habits, activities, people and beliefs that are not in complete alignment with your ideal life. To create new results, you need to create new habits and beliefs.
Belief is extremely important. If you do not believe that you can have what you want, you will not create what you want. All of the exercises that I have described in this article can help you increase your belief. Just know that you deserve to have what you want. Only you can keep yourself from having what you want and only you can allow yourself to create what it is you want.
Ryan Pearson is a Master Life Coach, Spiritual Teacher, Writer, Inspirational Speaker and Co-host of the popular Internet Radio Show, 'Empower Hour Radio'. He is known for helping his clients, students and listeners manifest their biggest dreams with the least amount of receiving. You can now receive free guidance and teachings directly to your email, go to http://www.happiness-lifecoach.com
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
http://KidsEdgeOnSelfEsteem.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Ryan_Pearson
The first step to manifesting what you want in life is to be very clear on what it is you want. What is it that you really want? Are you crystal clear on what it is that you want? One of the biggest reasons why people do not make their life dreams come true, is lack of clarity on what it is they truly want.
Another key to manifesting what it is that you truly want, and then being satisfied and happy when you receive what you want, is being clear on what part of you wants these things. Are your desires spirit driven, or ego driven? The desires of the ego will never satisfy you, completely and permanently.
It's okay to have a lot of money and live in a beautiful home, drive a nice car and all of those things. However, you have to be clear on why you want those things. Do you want these things to impress others and fill a hole within you? Or, do you want these things to feed your spirit and live a comfortable life, so that you can more clearly live your purpose to do good in the world and benefit others? We can do a lot of good in the world when we are wealthy. We also can live a very shallow and empty life when we are rich. What is driving your goals and desires, spirit or ego?
Again, to create what it is that you want in life, it is very important to be very clear on exactly what it is that you want in life. I would encourage you to take some time and get very quiet and relaxed, with a pen and paper. Take some deep breathes and close your eyes, now imagine your perfect life. What does your perfect life look like? Imagine it in great detail. What do you see? Where do you live? Are you married, if so what is your spouse like? How much money do you make monthly? What are your friends like? How does your body look and feel? What is your emotional state? What do you do for work? How do you feel? Imagine your perfect life in as much detail as possible.
When you are ready, begin to write down everything that you just visualized in as great of detail as possible. Write down the feelings you feel and everything that you can possibly think of.
Now that you have everything written down, go through each individual thing, write it on a separate piece of paper and write down why you want each thing. Write every reason why, that you can think of. Writing down your 'why' is extremely important for two reasons. The first reason is that this will help you determine if these desires are ego driven or spirit driven. The second reason is, the power of 'why'is what creates our powerful emotions that create what we want. If we state that we want certain things, but we are unclear on why we want them, then our power to create is weak. When we are crystal clear on why, and that 'why' inspires us, then our power to create is extremely powerful.
Now, you are clear on what you want and why you want it, you have now activated The Universe to start working with you to create what it is you want. I would encourage you to look at your list of what you want and why you want it very often. I would encourage you to read what you wrote for your ideal life, one to three times a day, especially before you go to sleep at night.
Some other powerful tools that can help you manifest your life dreams quicker and easier are, vision boards, affirmations, daily meditation and a gratitude journal.
A vision board helps you keep your goals in your minds eye on a daily basis. Find pictures of what you want and paste them all in one place on a board or on your wall, or whatever works best for you. It is our subconscious mind that creates our reality. We create new results by changing the information in our subconscious mind. Vision boards are a very powerful way to give new information to your subconscious. Another very powerful way to do this, is affirmations.
Affirmations are one of the most effective ways to create what it is that you desire. Write what you want in the present moment, as if you have already created what it is that you want. When you speak your affirmations, speak them with great feeling and emotion. I would encorage you to write affirmations for the top three things that you want to create and read each one five times out loud, three times a day.
Daily meditation is very important. By meditating every day you keep your connection to spirit strong. By having a strong connection to spirit, you take inspired action more often, rather that ego minded action. Spiritually guided inspired action will take you to your goals with the least resistance, to allow you to manifest your life dreams easily and effortlessly.
Gratitude is the most powerful emotion to create what we want, besides love. Love is the most powerful emotion to create, however gratitude is a form of love and carries great power. I would highly encourage you to start a gratitude journal. Every morning or evening, sit and write everything that comes to mind or heart, that you are grateful for. Just keep writing until you feel compelled to stop. You may start with writing only one thing, however, the more you write what you are grateful for, the more things in your life you will notice to be grateful for. At some time, you will come to a point where there are so many things that you are grateful for, you couldn't possibly write it all down in one sitting. That is a beautiful place to be. Remember, that feeling of gratitude is one of the most powerful tools for creating what you want.
To be able to incorporate all of these things you may need to make some changes in your life and in your schedule. If you keep doing what you have always done, you will continue to create the same things that you have always created. To live your ideal life, you need to eliminate anything that is not in alignment with what it is that you want to create. That means eliminating all habits, activities, people and beliefs that are not in complete alignment with your ideal life. To create new results, you need to create new habits and beliefs.
Belief is extremely important. If you do not believe that you can have what you want, you will not create what you want. All of the exercises that I have described in this article can help you increase your belief. Just know that you deserve to have what you want. Only you can keep yourself from having what you want and only you can allow yourself to create what it is you want.
Ryan Pearson is a Master Life Coach, Spiritual Teacher, Writer, Inspirational Speaker and Co-host of the popular Internet Radio Show, 'Empower Hour Radio'. He is known for helping his clients, students and listeners manifest their biggest dreams with the least amount of receiving. You can now receive free guidance and teachings directly to your email, go to http://www.happiness-lifecoach.com
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
http://KidsEdgeOnSelfEsteem.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Ryan_Pearson
Monday, March 1, 2010
Parenting Guidelines Regarding Discipline - Parenting Tips to Discipline Aggressive Children
Whenever you are parenting aggressive or disobedient children it can bring out some pretty intense feelings. We are all human and just because we love our children does not mean that we are immune to their difficult and aggressive behavior. It is important that you do your best not to give into any of these unruly behaviors. One negative emotional response from you losing your temper is all it takes. That is the main reason why parenting guidelines regarding discipline are considered so important.
They are necessary to achieve any positive results in changing behavior. Having a plan in place simply cannot be stressed enough.
The best way to improve on how you react to your child's aggression is by being completely prepared for it. Never allow your child to catch you off guard with their bad behavior. Combat this negative attitude with certain guidelines that you, yourself can put into place. These guidelines will need to be custom tailored to fit your needs and the needs of your child.
Keeping in mind that discipline is not the same as punishment and that in order for discipline to be effective you must understand and realize the difference.
Definition 1. Discipline is guiding or training to act in accordance with the rules of appropriate conduct. 2. Training of behavior in accordance with rules of conduct and/or to improve upon a skill or talent. 3. To demonstrate control or restraint over an impulse or desire.
Definition 1. Punishment is a penalty imposed upon someone guilty of a crime or wrongdoing. 2. To dispense harsh pain, injury or harm. 3. A penalty inflicted for an offense or fault. A negative consequence resulting in severe handling or treatment.
These are very prominent differences. You can achieve discipline without punishment. In fact, it has been proven time and time again that punishment is ineffective in controlling or changing negative behavior. The usual result is distrust, rebellion, and ultimately more negative behavior.
The hardest challenge when it comes to parenting aggressive kids is trying to change their behavior without them hating you. You will want to make excuses and explanations for your child. This is only natural. No parent wants to accept that their child is bad or has an anger management problem.
Having a plan in place is the only way to cause positive change with the least amount of struggle. Your child wants to behave and needs your guidance. Your child needs your help. Plus, it will offer you a way to remain objective and work as a reference guide for discipline.
The best thing to do is to completely accept and confront the aggression face to face with your child. Whether your child fully comprehends what you are explaining to them or not. You still need to do this. Explain that those negative behaviors are unacceptable. Then explain exactly what will happen when these behaviors return, (and they will return).
Often enough, once the initial transition period ends, the majority of aggressive children respond well to a set plan of guidelines. They do much better within a given structure. Which leans more towards disciplinary guidelines rather than punishing consequences. Most parenting guidelines regarding discipline makes things easier for your child and you.
Now comes the hard part. Stick to your guns. This is vital if you want to change the behavior of your child. Create, buy, borrow, adopt, just get a plan for corrective discipline AND STICK TO IT. It will not be easy at first but it will eventually get easier and easier. Eventually the parenting guidelines that you have set will begin to work. They will grow and develop exponentially and in a positive way.
Look at it this way, the bright side of this is you are catching this problem early on. If you keep a positive attitude and do not accept failure in this, then everything will be okay. However, if you ignore this problem it will grow beyond your ability to do anything about it. It will become a major problem for you in the future. You will be held responsible for whatever trouble your child causes. Dealing with teachers, other parents, principles, maybe even the police at some point will not be very fun for you.
If you only take one thing away from this article it should be to get a plan of action and stick to it with consistence. There is a great plan, along with a huge bounty of bonuses, that comes with the system "From misbehavior to great behavior." It can be adapted to fit any misbehavior and serves as an excellent tool for parenting.
One of the most important things you can do as a parent of a child with behavioral problems is to know & provide the best solutions available. From misbehavior to Great Behavior is the best quality set of information. Crammed with trusted methods that will help you. Discover and develop Parenting Guidelines that properly identify the reasons behind the behaviors aggressive children demonstrate and can tame even the most difficult kids.
Parenting guidelines regarding discipline that really are cutting edge gets excellent feedback. Learn how to properly and positively Discipline Your aggressive child and help them to start living more positive. Increase their happiness and yours through positive behavior.
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Julian_Anthony
They are necessary to achieve any positive results in changing behavior. Having a plan in place simply cannot be stressed enough.
The best way to improve on how you react to your child's aggression is by being completely prepared for it. Never allow your child to catch you off guard with their bad behavior. Combat this negative attitude with certain guidelines that you, yourself can put into place. These guidelines will need to be custom tailored to fit your needs and the needs of your child.
Keeping in mind that discipline is not the same as punishment and that in order for discipline to be effective you must understand and realize the difference.
Definition 1. Discipline is guiding or training to act in accordance with the rules of appropriate conduct. 2. Training of behavior in accordance with rules of conduct and/or to improve upon a skill or talent. 3. To demonstrate control or restraint over an impulse or desire.
Definition 1. Punishment is a penalty imposed upon someone guilty of a crime or wrongdoing. 2. To dispense harsh pain, injury or harm. 3. A penalty inflicted for an offense or fault. A negative consequence resulting in severe handling or treatment.
These are very prominent differences. You can achieve discipline without punishment. In fact, it has been proven time and time again that punishment is ineffective in controlling or changing negative behavior. The usual result is distrust, rebellion, and ultimately more negative behavior.
The hardest challenge when it comes to parenting aggressive kids is trying to change their behavior without them hating you. You will want to make excuses and explanations for your child. This is only natural. No parent wants to accept that their child is bad or has an anger management problem.
Having a plan in place is the only way to cause positive change with the least amount of struggle. Your child wants to behave and needs your guidance. Your child needs your help. Plus, it will offer you a way to remain objective and work as a reference guide for discipline.
The best thing to do is to completely accept and confront the aggression face to face with your child. Whether your child fully comprehends what you are explaining to them or not. You still need to do this. Explain that those negative behaviors are unacceptable. Then explain exactly what will happen when these behaviors return, (and they will return).
Often enough, once the initial transition period ends, the majority of aggressive children respond well to a set plan of guidelines. They do much better within a given structure. Which leans more towards disciplinary guidelines rather than punishing consequences. Most parenting guidelines regarding discipline makes things easier for your child and you.
Now comes the hard part. Stick to your guns. This is vital if you want to change the behavior of your child. Create, buy, borrow, adopt, just get a plan for corrective discipline AND STICK TO IT. It will not be easy at first but it will eventually get easier and easier. Eventually the parenting guidelines that you have set will begin to work. They will grow and develop exponentially and in a positive way.
Look at it this way, the bright side of this is you are catching this problem early on. If you keep a positive attitude and do not accept failure in this, then everything will be okay. However, if you ignore this problem it will grow beyond your ability to do anything about it. It will become a major problem for you in the future. You will be held responsible for whatever trouble your child causes. Dealing with teachers, other parents, principles, maybe even the police at some point will not be very fun for you.
If you only take one thing away from this article it should be to get a plan of action and stick to it with consistence. There is a great plan, along with a huge bounty of bonuses, that comes with the system "From misbehavior to great behavior." It can be adapted to fit any misbehavior and serves as an excellent tool for parenting.
One of the most important things you can do as a parent of a child with behavioral problems is to know & provide the best solutions available. From misbehavior to Great Behavior is the best quality set of information. Crammed with trusted methods that will help you. Discover and develop Parenting Guidelines that properly identify the reasons behind the behaviors aggressive children demonstrate and can tame even the most difficult kids.
Parenting guidelines regarding discipline that really are cutting edge gets excellent feedback. Learn how to properly and positively Discipline Your aggressive child and help them to start living more positive. Increase their happiness and yours through positive behavior.
Maureen Amberg is an author, entrepreneur and children’s advocate for MEA Online Edge Inc., with emphasis on the self esteem and positive inner confidence of children; including teenagers. Caring for Kids is my current life focus. I strive to be kind, tranquil, serene, and compassionate. Hopefully, this translates into peaceful, calm and helpful.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Julian_Anthony
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